Meeting other moms and their kids and getting together for play dates is a lot like dating. Who makes the first move and invites the other out? What if the kids don’t get along? What if the moms don’t hit it off? What will we talk about?
Last week during dance class I spent 45 minutes talking to another mom who is new to the class. We both work full-time and both had this week off. We were talking about what we were going to do with the kids all week and I mentioned we were hoping to go to the zoo. She suggested we could go together; it sounded like a great idea so I agreed. We exchanged phone numbers at the end of class and said we’d be in touch.
The timing didn’t work out for the zoo, but we did get together yesterday for a play date at the park. I’d never been to this park and didn’t realize it was a splash park, not a playground park. I was completely unprepared. I didn’t have M’s swimsuit, towel or extra clothes. I did, however, have a swim diaper and sunscreen in her diaper bag. I decided to let her play and get soaked in her clothes because I didn’t want to back out of our play date right when we got there.
The other mom was great – she had a spare pair of pants in her diaper bag so she let M wear them in the splash park that way I could save her shorts and have something dry to put in her in for the ride home. So while all the other kids were playing in their swimsuits, mine was running around in a pants and a t-shirt. Oh well.
The girls had a great time playing together – they are 8 months apart but act very much the same. While they played, I spent the hour and a half sitting on a park bench and talking with the other mom (with the occasional interruption while I jumped up to grab M as she ran toward the beach). At first we talked about the kids, because that’s the easiest way to break the ice and start talking to another parent. But then we started getting into our families, jobs, etc. It seriously felt like a first date.
I always feel nervous around other parents for some reason, but this other mom is very relaxed and easy to talk to. We had an enjoyable time chatting and the kids had fun. All in all, I’d say it was a successful first play date. I’m hoping for a second date sometime soon. :)